Baby’s second night
You’ve made it through your first 24 hours as a new mum. Maybe you have other children, but you are a new mum all over again. And now it’s your baby’s second night.
All of a sudden, your little one discovers that he or she is no longer back in the warm and comfortable (albeit crowded) womb where he has spent the last 9 months – and it is SCARY out here! They aren’t hearing your familiar heartbeat, the swooshing of the placental arteries, the soothing sound of your lungs or the comforting gurgling of your intestines. Instead, they’re in a cot, swaddled up tight, and wearing clothes!!! All sorts of people have been handling baby, and they are not yet accustomed to the new noises, lights, sounds and smells. He has found one thing though, and that’s his voice …. and you find that each time you take him off the breast where he comfortably drifted off to sleep, and put him in the cot – he protests, loudly!
In fact, each time you put him back on the breast he feeds for a little bit and then goes back to sleep. As you take him off and put him back to bed he cries again …. and starts rooting around, looking for you. This goes on – seemingly for hours. A lot of mums are convinced it is because their milk isn’t “in” yet, and the baby is starving. However, it isn’t that, but the baby’s sudden awakening to the fact that the most comforting and comfortable place for him to be is at the breast. It’s the closest to “home” he can get. It seems that this is pretty universal among babies.
So, what do you do? When he drifts off to sleep at the breast after a good feed, break the suction and slide your nipple gently out of his mouth. Don’t move him except to pillow his head more comfortably on your breast. Don’t try and burp him – just snuggle with him until he falls into a deep sleep where he won’t be disturbed by being moved. Babies go into a light sleep state (REM) first, and then cycle in and out of REM and deep sleep about every ½ hour or so. If he starts to root and act as though he wants to go back to the breast, that’s fine… this is his way of settling and comforting himself.
Another helpful hint is that his hands were his best friends in utero. He could suck his thumb or his fingers anytime he was the slightest bit disturbed or uncomfortable. All of a sudden he’s had them taken away from him and someone has put mittens on him! He has no way of self-soothing himself with those mittens on. Babies need to touch, and feel, and even his touch on your breast will increase your oxytocin levels which will help boost your milk supply! So take the mittens off and loosen his blanket so he can get to his hands. He might scratch himself, but it will heal very rapidly – after all, he has fingernails when he was inside you and no one put mittens on him then!
By the way this behaviour might happen every once in a while at home too, particularly If you’ve changed his environment such as going to the doctor, or out shopping, or a day with the grandparents. Don’t let it throw you – sometimes babies just need some extra snuggling at the breast, because for the baby, the breast feels like “home”.